Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Time Travel -- Part Two: The Gift



As I said last week, sometimes time travel whirls you back
to a time you don't even remember forgetting.

That happened to me a few weeks ago, when we had a party here to celebrate our daughter's engagement.
The happy couple at the sculpture garden in Princeton.
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My cousin Judy brought me a hostess gift, something from her own home.

After dinner, as the grownups sat around the table in the dining room, I unwrapped Judy's package.

And suddenly I wasn't in my own dining room,
I wasn't my own ancient self.   I wasn't even in New Jersey.

I was in the little town of St. James on Long Island, in the tiny bungalow that belonged
to my mother's mother -- the grandmother we all called Ahmoo -- and I was about 6 years old.
This was the little house my mother and her brother lived in when they had a small chicken farm in the late 1930s.

We were spending our summer vacation there, at the house near the woods,
although Ahmoo was by then in a nursing home.

But I'm wandering away from my point -- Judy's gift.

Which was this:
I recognized them.
Two silhouette pictures, on the reverse side of curved glass, with colored scenes behind them.

I would not have put them on the list of things I remembered from the bungalow.
No . . . 
I remember the big metal heater in the living room, the stairs to the second floor that were so shallow and steep that my sister and I were not allowed to climb them.  I remember hearing Frank Sinatra sing High Hopes on the radio, and discovering the joys of honey and peanut butter on toast, including the knack of putting a little dam of peanut butter around the edge of the toast to corral the honey.

I remember the sleeping arrangements -- my big brothers in the attic, our parents in the only bedroom.
I slept on a cot, and Peggy, only 4, slept on two mohair upholstered club chairs
pushed cushion-to-cushion to make a bed; my mother called it a Thumbelina bed.

Peggy thought she got the Thumbelina bed because she was special . . . not because she was just short.
 So, no, I wouldn't have said that I remember these pictures from the bungalow,
but seeing them there, in front of me, put me right back in that tiny house.
"Turn them over," my cousin said.
And I did.
There was writing on the back.
You know those moments when time stands still?  When you almost, truly, lose your breath?
Yeah, one of those.
In December 1939, my mother -- Tina -- was 18.

Those silhouettes were a Christmas gift from my mother and her brother Marty, to their parents in Brooklyn.  When Ahmoo retired to what was then the country, they hung in the bungalow for years.  Eventually my cousin bought the little cottage -- she lives next door -- and she's kept them safe.

I passed them around the table.  My sister Peggy and my brother Lindy held them, turned them
over, read and re-read the simple message and felt
that thrill of recognition and communication, of connection to family.

They are a sweet glimpse into our Mom's teenage years.
The pictures are such kid things to choose as gifts for parents.
The silhouettes, hobnobbing with a china elephant my Mom bought for ten cents; it's still written on his foot in pencil.
We only ever know our parents in their grownup form; finding a link back
to the kids they were is precious, and a little startling when you aren't expecting it.

Mom left us on January 5, last year.  On January 5, this year, Josh proposed to Alida.
I feel as though Mom found a way to touch us, to be with us, at our celebration of that engagement.

I haven't hung the silhouettes yet.  I can't decide if I should ask Peggy if she wants one,
or if I should keep them together, as they've always been.

I pick the silhouettes up, turn them over to read the back, and think about my Mom,
so young and on her own, on that Christmas so long ago.

Last Thursday, March 31, was her birthday; she would have been 90. 

A belated Happy Birthday, Mom.
You always thought that it was the mothers who should get the presents on a birthday!
I'm sorry I never did that for you, despite all your hinting.

For now, the silhouettes can rest on the mantel, with Mom's elephant and a couple of my own.
And those 79-cent species tulips from Michael's.  My Mom would love those!

Thank you, Judy, for bringing these little treasures to me.

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